Why Do I Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns? By Vanessa Ann Vigilante, PhD, Licensed Psychologist You swear things will be different this time. And then, almost without noticing, you find yourself in the same argument, with the same dynamic, feeling the same way you've felt a hundred times before. This isn't a sign that something is fundamentally wrong with you. It's a sign that your nervous system is running an old program. We learn relationships before we can thi

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